The main nuance of our soul is love. We all need to receive love and show love. It brings many positive emotions such as love, joy, trust and hope. But love is not just a feeling; it consists of choices and actions. Loving someone requires making decisions for their good and engaging in actions that benefit them.
Although we all need love equally, our receiving and giving of love are in different languages. Therefore, it is important to know the language of love of the other person in order for the love we give to reach and to be aware of our own language of love in order to receive the love given to us. Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Languages of Love may be a good source. Chapman divided the language of love into five categories: quality time, words of encouragement, gift-giving, acts of service and physical contact. Although all these languages are available to all of us, some are more dominant.
Not being aware of languages of love can sometimes lead to problems due to expectations in relationships. For example, while waiting for words of encouragement from your partner, it may be that by making your morning coffee through acts of service he is revealing his dominant language; however, yours is words of encouragement. In this case, the spouses may not be fully aware of the love shown by each other, and this can create a feeling of incompleteness in their inner world. A better exchange will be possible if we explain to each other how we receive and prefer to give love.
Being loved for who you are may result in you becoming a better person. Not loving someone despite all their flaws; but by loving them with imperfections they can be lead to file away at their defects and be strengthened over time.
The healing power of love helps to reduce traumas experienced by the person, the misconceptions he learns and the anxiety created by negative mindsets. It is the primary remedy for many negative effects such as love, lack of self-confidence, fear, insecurity, anxiety, unhappiness. When we understand the nature of true love, when we feel that we are truly loved and know it from the heart, we change and heal. And so, we can love others much better. Self-love is the key to loving our wife, friend, family, neighbor. If we feed on the infinite source of true love, we can love the difficult people around us and to even perform the actions that love requires.
We read the nature of true love in the Bible as follows: Love is patient, love is compassionate. Love doesn’t envy, it doesn’t brag, it doesn’t draw attention to itself. It does not look towards its own interests. It doesn’t get angry easily. Love doesn’t rejoice in injustice; it rejoices in the true thing. Love endures everything, is upheld under everythings, hopes for everything. Love never ends.
We can only find such love in God, who is Love Himself. When we understand how deep, vast, eternal and unconditionally He loves us, and when we sincerely accept this love, we are transformed to love like Him.
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